What is HAPPINESS? (for some of you that have asked me)
We all have our own desires and versions of happiness, it might be a person, a thing, a place, an aspiration, a dream, a goal ect, whatever it might be, and the funny thing is, it all starts with YOU. It’s a choice you make yourself. Sure, we get the tough times, the up and downs in life, the moments where it feels like the world is coming crashing down on us, but then we get the good times and the times where it feels like we are on top of the world you know that kinda feeling. Some people are genuinely happy, others tend to hide it very well but still leads to a choice you make.
“It’s NOT selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself and to make your happiness a priority. It’s NECESSARY.“
So here’s the thing why I chase my happiness, and I choose to. You see at some point in life things start to become boring, we fall into a routine and give up on goals and dreams, we discourage our selves into thinking “if only we had someone els’ dream life” , we see only the negative things and we tend to think that the “sadness of life” is bound to stay. Well NOTHING lasts forver…. #itsafact.
I can tell you now, that we all have feelings and these weird things called EMOTIONS. Yep !! E-V-E-R-Y S-I-N-G-L-E O-N-E O-F U-S !!!! Surprise……. And we choose our emotions according to everyday situations and life in general whatever that might be.
I think that self-love is important (VERY NB) and a huge factor in ones life that should be prioritized. Sometimes what we see and what other people see are two different things. We tend to be our own worst critiques even pushing it too far where happiness doesn’t exist for a period of time.
So my answer to the question: What makes me happy??? You see many things make me happy, like : cute puppies, ice-cream, pizza, adventure, naps, cocktails, the beach……and my list goes on, but snapping back to reality; I found it so hard to sometimes love myself, yes, I am not perfect, I say and do things I shouldn’t do, I make mistakes, I don’t have a perfect life, but I am HAPPY. Afterall I am only HUMAN.
The thing is on my journey just like many others, I’ve learned a lot and made a lot of mistakes too, I’ve failed and conquered a million times, I’ve cried and I’ve smiled, I’ve loved and lost and I’ve feared and I’ve dreamt, but in the end, its that what makes you stronger and pushes you to continue on living a glorious life. Afterall we should, EMBRACE THE GLORIOUS BEAUTIFUL MESSES THAT WE ARE!!! Many things have led up to my happiness such as, meditation, yoga, hiking mountains, being with friends and many more all contribute a little happiness to my life. BUT, your past will always be your past, that DOES NOT define who you are today (unless it’s a positive past).
Sometimes we just need to “eat, pray, love”and SLAY to forget what hurt us, to let go of lost ones that will never return, to learn that happiness begins with us and to create a life we want without hesitation or social corruption. We need to focus on ourselves, and to do what makes us proud and happy. I have a had a hard time with choosing what makes me happy and what makes others happy. But I chose me. I chose my decisions: I made that decision by moving away from friends that became family and skipping out on birthdays, Christmas’s with the family, funerals and births. I made my decision when I bought that one way ticket and didn’t think twice, I made that decision by leaving a place I now call home (well one of the many places). I decided to walk away from someone I should have pursued although looking back now it was the right decision, I decided to start a new beginning where no one knew me, I decided that I didn’t want the “wild child” reputation anymore and I decided that whatever happens, happens anyway…. so you can either choose to live a miserable life or you can choose to live the life of your dreams and be happy. The choice is yours. You have the power to decide on your happiness no matter what it might be…..
“Be Crazy, Be Stupid, Be Silly, Be Weird, Be Whatever ! Because LIFE is too short to be anything but…… HAPPY”.
But most of all I made that decision to choose what makes me happy. AND right now I am HAPPY and crazily inlove with life (well beside the fact that I have the flu)…. And do I regret my choices? Nope, okay I lie mabe one or two, but because at that point in my life it is what I needed and wanted and its shaped me into the person I am today. So don’t worry be happy…..
C.v.T (you can find my facebook page at The Life as a CvT)